Planning A Beautiful Service

When my grandmother passed away, I was astonished to learn that I had been named the executor of her estate. After splitting up her belongings amongst my aunts and uncles, I turned my attention to planning her funeral. I didn't know where to start. Fortunately, I was able to find an excellent funeral home that understood how to help people plan beautiful memorial services. It was amazing to go through the process of planning the music, the speakers, and even the set-up of the room. This blog is all about planning gorgeous memorial services for the people that you love so that you aren't left grappling with difficult decisions.

What Funeral Directors Want You To Know


Planning a funeral is stressful and overwhelming for many people. All you want to do is grieve for your loved one, but you need to handle the paperwork and arrangements. You will deal with a funeral director, and here are four things they want you to know, but won't necessarily tell you.

1. Let Them Do the Planning

You don't need to plan every little detail. This is not your wedding or a happy event. Funeral directors understand that you want to grieve, and have handled plenty of arrangements to know how to make it a beautiful memorial service for you. There will be times they ask for your opinion, but they can handle all the stressful decisions and arrangements.

Funeral directors will work with others within this industry. They can order flowers, work with ministers, and even work with caterers for the wake.

2. They Aren't Vampires!

There is a lot of bad press about funeral directors, whether it involves strange arrangements with death or scamming people out of money. Funeral directors are real people and they understand just how difficult this time is for you. They have families, too. They know how heartbreaking it is to lose someone.

They want to make it as easy as possible, while keeping the arrangements as close to what your loved one would want as possible.

3. They Want to Make You Happy

Funeral directors will try to move Heaven and Earth to make you happy. They want you to be happy with arrangements and settled in this part of grieving. If there is something specific you would like included, they will work with you to fit that in. Maybe there is a specific outfit you want your deceased loved one to be buried in or a favorite piece of music you want playing, they will help you get that wish. Just ask them.

4. Some Funeral Homes Offer After Service Help

Grieving doesn't stop because you've said goodbye. You will need to deal with things after the service. Many funeral homes are there for you during this time, and some offer free services to help you deal with the loss of a loved one. Some homes have monthly or quarterly groups of others who are dealing with death and struggling with it.

Don't be afraid to talk to your funeral director for arrangements. They can handle it all, just asking you for decisions on a few elements. That's the main thing that they want you to remember at this difficult time. To learn more, contact a company like Bolton & Lunsford Funeral Homes.


28 June 2016